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acrtnshadeofme's avatar

Its too much. As someone who has big feelings I have learned to focus on the things I can control and my reaction to the things I can not. Compassion fatigue is real, it will make you sad, hopeless and empty. Making your circle smaller and focusing on the things that bring you joy and fulfillment can be enough. Its just too much! Your big heart and deep thoughts always brighten my day, you are not alone in your feelings, you have many allies. Xoxo

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Devany Amber Wolfe's avatar

Phew. Thank you for writing what I (and many) are feeling. I think it’s only natural to reach a state of numbness after the alarm bells have been sounded constantly. In my research on the nervous system, the last vestige state is called “dorsal vagal shutdown.” It’s what happens when you’re in a state of overwhelm for too long. The body simply can’t hold it. I entered DVS when the pandemic started, and have come out of it now but am very very wary of consuming too much media or speaking about it using my platform, lest I wind up back where I began.

There’s also this rhetoric around those of us with any kind of “platform” HAVING to be activists / loudspeakers - and if we’re not, we’re on the “wrong side.” It’s exhausting. We need to find regulation - or else how will we be of any service to ourselves or those in our immediate communities? As you said it’s not about not caring. It’s about understanding that it’s endless, and we desperately need that pause + space. 💕

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